FAMILY MATTER – MARCH 2018
God’s Ultimate Desire for Your Family (1)
Happy New Month to you! It is my prayer that pleasant surprises begin to spring forth in your life and endeavours . This month, your marriage, career and family will receive new wine from above that will terminate every form of anxiety! Throughout this series for the month, I shall be exploring the topic: God’s Ultimate Desire for Your Family . However, in this edition, I will be dwelling on: Keeping Yourself Pure.
God is specially interested in your marriage and family. He has made everything available for you to enjoy, including a successful home (1 Timothy 6:17). It is God’s desire that His children have the best on earth and in life. God desires your marriage to be peaceful and fulfilling.
But, God’s intent for your marriage can only be actualised when you keep yourself pure. Purity entails a state of not being contaminated with anything that pollutes you spirit, soul and body. To be pure means to be without evil or sin. The Bible says: Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled… (Hebrews 13:4). The word ‘undefiled’ there simply means kept pure. You must, therefore, ensure that you keep the marriage bed pure to enjoy the honour in marriage.
You may ask, how possible can this be? You must understand that if this was impossible, God won’t tell you to do it. Purity is not restricted to an age grade or gender or a specific period of time. It is required that every child of God walk in purity at all times. As the Bible says: The eyes of the Lord are in every place, beholding the evil and the good (Proverbs 15:3).
As singles, to enjoy honour in your marriage, you must lay a good foundation for it by keeping yourself pure. Parents, begin to train your children against pre-marital sex. It does not matter whether it is acceptable in the society or not. If you say, well, God will forgive me after doing it, what about the scar? Remember the Bible says: What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound? (Romans 6:1)
The truth is: Sex is the seal of the marriage covenant. Any sexual relationship engaged in outside marriage, breaks the seal and attracts God’s punishment. Therefore, you must never get yourself involved in it. However, if you have already defiled the bed, God is always merciful and faithful to forgive if you ask Him sincerely (Psalm 86:5; 1 John 1:9).
Many people get emotionally distorted when they defile the marriage bed to the extent that it disturbs their marital life. You can save your marriage from torments by keeping your life pure. When you defile the marriage bed, you are behaving like a beast and whatever happens to a beast can happen to you at any time. Therefore, you must make a change in the right direction in the name of Jesus Christ!
Give no room to the devil if your soul is actually precious to you. When you get into defiling the marriage bed, whether you are single or married, it is because your soul is not precious to you.
God made man with certain physiological and emotional needs and marriage provides the best fulfilment for them. Physiologically, man needs sex. It is part of his physical nature, and the satisfaction of that urge is permitted only within the parameters of marriage. God honours the physical union of a man and his wife by ensuring that they find fulfilment in each other. This is why He frowns at adultery and fornication. 1 Corinthians 7:2 says: Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
This is not to say that young men and women should rush into marriage just for the sole aim of satisfying their sexual urge. That would make them nothing but bedmates. The love and excitement in such a relationship never last and that is not God’s plan or purpose for marriage. As a single man or lady, you are expected to control your urge until you locate a suitable partner with whom you are ready to spend the rest of your life with and are legally married to. The truth is: if you cannot tame your sexual drive while single, you probably will not be able to exercise control even when you are married. Flaunting God’s purpose in this area of marriage can be very costly to your home and destiny. Therefore, don’t do it!
Refuse to fall victim, if you truly value your glorious destiny. Don’t say you want to earn yourself a living by whoremongering because God will judge those who do that. Stop it! Don’t wait for the fire of God to come upon you, plead for His mercy, call upon Him now that He is ready to hear you. The Bible says: I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service (Romans 12:1). In other words, the presentation of your body unto the Almighty God as a living sacrifice is your reasonable service unto God. Any service done unto God without your body being a living sacrifice is not acceptable. It does not matter what you do and the volume of money you give in church every day. If your body is not kept pure, that service is not acceptable unto God. Whether single or married, illicit sexual affairs render your service to God un-rewardable and will deprive you of enjoying the honour He has destined for you in marriage.
God is much more interested in your person than your money or what you can do. When your person is acceptable unto God, then your service will become acceptable. Receive grace to practice the Word of God so that you can truly enjoy the honour destined for you in marriage in Jesus’ name!
If you are not born again and you want to accept Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour, then say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through email@example.com , 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores : Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).