Success Secrets for a Fulfilled Marriage (3)
I welcome you to another great and impactful time of learning at Jesus’ feet. God’s Word always renews us and I believe your marriage have been taking a new turn by the words you read each week. It is my prayer that all you have learnt from the series of teachings will reflect positively in your marriage and home in Jesus’ name!
Last week, we saw how powerful the word “Thank you” is. This week, you will yet be receiving another secret that will enhance your desire for a fulfilled marriage. This secret is learning to say “I love you.’’
Saying, “I love you” over and over again spices up the marriage. Words are powerful, and just like it is necessary for rain to fall again and again for farmers to reap a bountiful harvest, so also it is necessary to say “I love you” over and over again to keep the bond in your marriage stronger.
Come to think of it, since your relationship started off by the use of these three words, wouldn’t it grow by the continuous use of it? The presumptuous claim that it’s not necessary to tell your spouse “I love you” over and over again because, “He or she should know you love him/her,” is wrong. The Bible points out the importance of voicing out what one believes in the heart (Romans 10:10). What you believe in your heart, needs to be expressed with your mouth. No one can read minds, and until thoughts are voiced out they remain private.
Your spouse cannot continue assuming that you love him or her, but you can express or reaffirm him or her by saying it regularly. The truth is: Just as there are no limits to saying thank you or I’m sorry, there are also no limit to saying “I love you.” In actual fact, this should be said more often in the home than any other words.
Faith, the Bible tells us, comes by hearing. If faith, the all-important mountain mover, becomes ours by the simple act of hearing God’s Word, imagine how many mountains will be moved out of your homes when your spouse hears the words, “I love you!” each time.
Someone once said the issue with many people is that they keep emphasising on their challenges, instead of the positive changes they hope to see. If you want the oil in the home to dry up, then confess the negative. But if you want to experience newness of love, peace and joy in your home, then you must keep making positive confessions. The truth is: when you are used to telling your spouse how much you love him or her, even when situations seems contrary, it is easily resolved because love already fills your heart and overwhelms the negative situation around you.
The genuine expression of love was how God won man to Himself – the Bible says while we were yet sinners, Christ died, thus saying, “I love you” to mankind who rejected His love. So, it does not matter whether your spouse reciprocates this act of love or not, what matters is the positivity you are contributing into your home and this will always speak for posterity.
One way you can also keep saying “I love you” to your spouse is to speak kind words to him or her. Words create the atmosphere of a home relationship. Express to your mate the nice qualities you like in him or her. Husband and wife must learn to speak kind words to each other. Words create the right atmosphere in your home. There must be a continued renewal of your love towards your spouse (Colossians 3:19; Ephesians 5:25-28).
Someone rightly said, “Action speaks louder than words.” There is a place for words and also a place for action. Lending a helping hand, being available makes a lot of difference in relationships. They are a way to say, “I care”. Someone once said that it can be quite frustrating for a woman to do all the work in the house, while the man sits in front of the television enjoying a game of football, only to say to the tired woman, “I love you, dear”. She knows you love her, at least you’ve said so, but take a step and help her with the household chores. It adds zest to your words.
When a wife hears “I love you” from the husband, her countenance changes. She cannot hear it too much. My husband is never too tired to appreciate and say, “I love you” to me. Each time I hear that from my husband, I’m excited and on top throughout the day. It works!
Say the words before leaving for work and when you come home. Say, “I love you” before hanging up the phone or after a particularly inspiring conversation. Every marriage needs a daily dose of these three important words. “I love you” often is never a bad habit to cultivate. Even if we are upset with our spouse that day, saying “I love you” may help us forgive him or her.
Learn to say nice words to your family members. Husbands, it’s not wrong to say, “I love you” to your wife often. However, you can’t say the words and really mean it without being born again. You become born again by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus Christ as the Lord and Saviour of your life. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org , 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores : Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).