WINNING YOUR UNBELIEVING SPOUSE TO CHRIST (4)
I am sure that you have been receiving some helpful truths on how to get your spouse saved. Continuous practice of what you have received will further guarantee a quick testimony for you in Jesus’ name! This week, I will be teaching on one virtue that is very helpful in getting your spouse saved. It is one virtue that looks so insignificant that many believers find very hard to use. This virtue is PATIENCE .
Patience, is the human ability to accept delay, annoyance or suffering without complaining. It is also the ability to keep doing something that requires a lot of effort. Patience is a must when it comes to the salvation of your spouse. Many who are faced with the challenges of being married to their unsaved spouses always seek quick ways of quitting the marriage. Rather than staying in it to work out these challenges, they opt for ways to put an end to the marriage. If this is the situation with you, I would like you to know that this is not the solution.
Praying, fasting and living a Christian life that speaks will demand your patience, as your unsaved spouse may try to frustrate your efforts by constantly doing those things that may upset you and is against your Christian faith. Your unsaved spouse’s contrary actions to what you are praying for, is not of his or her will. Remember, he or she has not seen the light and can be considered one that has been blinded and is still under the influence of the prince of this world (2 Corinthians 4:4). Patience, while praying, fasting and living a life that speaks is needful when an instant miracle does not happen the way you expect it to. Hebrews 10:35-39 says: Cast not away therefore your confidence, which hath great recompence of reward. For ye have need of patience, that, after ye have done the will of God, ye might receive the promise. For yet a little while, and he that shall come will come, and will not tarry. Now the just shall live by faith: but if any man draw back, my soul shall have no pleasure in him. But we are not of them who draw back unto perdition; but of them that believe to the saving of the soul.
Remember, that when you too were unsaved, you might have done worse things in foolishness, but God still found joy in accepting you as His child. He forgave you and redeemed you so that you could do the same, especially towards your unsaved spouse. It may take some time for him or her to come around to accepting Jesus with you, but patience will help you not to give up just too quickly. Your faith will be tried as written in James 1:3-4 which says: Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience. But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing. But when patience is in place, you will always find yourself strengthened instead of fainting at such times. Learn to exercise more patience with your spouse who is an unbeliever. Do not see him or her as the person responsible for all those negative actions, rather see the devil as the sole culprit and address the situation that way when you are before the Lord.
Instead of talking back, nagging, shouting, insulting or giving in all together, remember, that it is the voice of the devil that is controlling your spouse and not your spouse. When you see it this way, you will seek ways to protect your unsaved spouse and direct your anger back at the devil accordingly. Also, you meditate on all the testimonies that you have read so far, which had the working of patience attached to them. The people involved, carefully and patiently acted on the Word of God that they had received.
Here is another testimony that will further build your faith: “ I give thanks to God for quelling the war in my home between my husband and I. I kept praying for God to touch my husband’s heart, so that we could both be attending church services together. I remembered God’s Word; I believed it and kept appropriating it to myself. On Tuesday, when another fight was to start, I left the house for my mother’s house. On returning home in the evening, my husband said he wanted to talk to me. He said he wanted to give his life to Christ. This morning, to the glory of God, my husband is here in church with me.”
I tell you once again, there is nothing that is too much for God to do. But for Him to fulfill His part, you have to fulfill your part effectively. Can you imagine a situation whereby you could have led your spouse patiently unto salvation, you opted to walk out on your marriage and much later by some other miraculous means your spouse becomes a believer! You may also just be the vessel God wants to use to get the message of salvation across to him or her. You will not fail in Jesus’ name! You will make it! So, don’t give up!
The act of being patient can only be easy when God becomes your stronghold. It is quite impossible to be patient by your own power and might. Zechariah 4:6 says: … Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. God’s Word in Colossians 1:11 also says: Strengthened with all might, according to his glorious power, unto all patience and longsuffering with joyfulness . Holding unto Him will give you an access to that power. However, if you have not yet accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour, you too can do so, and become a child of God. If you are not born again and you want to accept Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour, then say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org , 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores : Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).