You are the Builder of Your Home (4)
It is wonderful to be able to share God’s Word with you once more in this column. I have shown you what to do to build a sweet home. I made you understand that you are the builder of your home and I gave you three vital ingredients for building a sweet home.
This week, I want to teach on Peace in the Home . If you look around, you will find out that peace is a scarce commodity in the world today. Many are searching for it with all their might. Peaceful homes are not wished for. They do not drop from heaven, but are carefully and consciously cultivated into being, by the parties involved.
There is a popular inscription found in most Christian homes, which says, “Christ is the head of this home, the unseen guest at every meal, the silent listener to every conversation.” Yet, a lot of such families don’t enjoy peace because, to them, Christ is only a picture and an inscription. He is not really the Head of their home. I have seen couples who are Christians, but who have never experienced a 24-hour peace in their homes. They desire a sweet home, but what they experience daily is sour home, where love never reigns. But I have good news for you. The Word of God says, … He is the Prince of Peace! (Isaiah 9:6).
When Jesus is given His rightful place in the home, absolute peace is guaranteed. So, let Jesus be the head of your home in truth and indeed. Believe His Word, receive His instructions and obey them, and perfect peace and joy will become a permanent thing in your home. Below is a testimony of how God restored peace to the home of this sister:
“I have been married for the past ten years, and ever since, there was no peace in the home. For me, marriage wasn’t good. Things were just upside down. I had a child in 1993 but he died. I also had series of miscarriages. I used to drive a car, but it was no more. It was as if everything came to a halt.
My husband started coming to Winners’ Chapel in January 1997. He didn’t ask me to come with him, because I was already attending another Pentecostal church. Yet, there was no peace in the home. The situation worsened, and in June 1997, the tension was so high that I said, ‘Lord, what will I do?’ I told my husband, ‘If this is what marriage is all about, let us call it quit.’ He replied, ‘Well, the door is wide open. You can go.’ It was then I sat down and did a rethink.
I came to Winners’ Chapel in June, and I began to hear the Bishop say, ‘I have been married for many years now, and there hasn’t been any concern or problem in my home.’ I said to myself, ‘Is it on this earth or another planet?’
But somehow, God has done it for me too! Now I know I had been the problem, not my husband. My husband is a perfect gentleman! The Bishop’s wife jokingly says, if there was anything as another life, she would still choose to marry her husband. I too can joyfully say the same thing today!” – Neburabo, R.
Let’s us look at one the enemies of peace in the home- Stubbornness: What does it mean to be stubborn? It means to be unwilling to change. In a nutshell, stubbornness means to be adamant, to be fixed in purpose and opinion, to refuse positive development. God hates someone who is stubborn. The Word of God says, Stubbornness is as an iniquity and Idolatry (1 Samuel15:23). In this scripture, stubbornness is equated with idolatry, and idolatry is a serious sin before God. It is as grievous as the adoration of graven images. So prune it away from your family life before it prunes you away from your home.
Stubbornness kills dreams. Saul’s kingdom was cut off from him because he refused correction. If it can destroy a whole kingdom; then, you need to prune it off your home before it robs you of a successful home. Imagine a man who makes up his mind to do something but refuses to be swayed by the pleading of his wife, even when her reasons are obviously in accordance with the Word of God. Watch such a man, he will end up in big trouble someday. The Word of God Say, He, that being often reproved hardeneth his neck, shall suddenly be destroyed, and that without remedy ( Proverbs 29:1).
Stubbornness is an enemy of honour and dignity, so husband and wife who delight in stubborn acts will end up being stripped of honour. When someone breaks the hedge, anything evil can happen to him (Ecclesiastes 10:8). Wives our husbands are the heads of the home. We must be submissive to them. We must avoid conflicting decisions at home. Allow them to take the final decision as regards the progress of the home, so as to maintain peace in the home.
Note this: any woman who is strong-willed and unyielding is heading for disgrace and destruction. As a Christian mother, you must not allow the spirit of stubbornness to overshadow you. Be calm and articulate; calmness is not stupidity, but the cure of stubbornness.
However, if you are not born again, it will be difficult to maintain peace in your home. You need Jesus Christ to be committed and maintain commitment in marriage. If, peradventure, you are not born again and you want to accept Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour, then say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org , 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores : Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored)