Nurturing Your Relationship (4)
God has been faithful and He has really opened your eyes to so many things you didn’t know before about relationship. I know you have been blessed.
For the past few weeks now, we have been exploring the subject, ‘ Nurturing Your Relationship’ Under this subject, we have been able to look at what relationship is all about, we have leant about the factors that can help you nurture and grow your relationship; The factor of commitment, the factor of Putting your home in order, and last week we discussed Be the man of her dream. I am sure the married men have been able to take advantage of last week teaching in particular. This factor when you put it to use, it will help you to win your wife. Today, we shall also be looking at another interesting factor that can help you as a married woman to nurture and grow your relationship. You want to know this factor? Be the Woman of His dreams!
Just as every woman has expectations about the man she wants to spend the rest of her life with, woman, know that every man (your husband) also has some basic expectations of the woman he wants to marry.
Be a Help
Obviously, God instituted marriage to get a suitable help for man, so He made the woman. The woman is therefore an ordained help for her husband. What are you to help your husband with? As wife God expects you to help your husband bear the load of responsibilities he carries.
“ And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him ”
Your ‘ministry’ is to ensure that the man does not fail in his duties and that the family system does not break down. In other words, you are there in the family to help lift the weight not add to it. You are there a helper not a destroyer, castigator or betrayer.
Be a Home Maker
Every home is like a garden, and just as God gave Adam an instruction to dress and keep it, every home must be dressed to be kept. No matter how colourful your garden, if it is left unkempt, it is open to the attack of all kinds of insects that will eat up its good fruits.
“And the LORD God took the man, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it.” Genesis 2:15.
Who keeps the Home?
Woman, how well kept is your home? This scripture has many implications. A woman is to keep her house spiritually by prayer and sensitivity to the Holy Spirit, but she also keeps it practically by cleaning up and beautifying it. “Cleanliness is next to godliness,” they say. Let the environment be conducive for the Holy Spirit. Titus 2:4-5 says it is the woman.
“ That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. ”
Feed Him Well
There is a popular adage that says, “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.” Woman, your family is what they eat. If they are healthy it can be practically traced to their eating habits.
It is not enough to feed with sumptuous food, but you need to feed them right. Are the foods they eat nutritious? Or do you give them just anything? Wisdom is profitable to direct. (Eccl. 10:10).
In this day and age of processed foods and snacks (fast food) please secure the health of your family by feeding them with good food. Remember, “garbage in, garbage out.”
Eve fed her husband; unfortunately, she fed him with poison instead of life. Woman what are you feeding your dream man with? Genesis 3:6 says,
“ And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat. ”
Be Financially Accountable
Financial rest does not only come when you are a millionaire, it comes by being a good money manager. You must have a financial plan or else you are creating room for financial pain. A wise man once said, “Pain is a sign of disorder” it follows that to experience financial pain is a sign of disorder in your spending.
You can prioritize your spending and maximize your income. Why must you put yourself into such pain getting into debt? Spend within your means and be content with your income size for now.
“ Though thy beginning was small, yet thy latter end should greatly increase ” Job 8:7.
Complement Your Spouse
One other way to nurture your relationship is by an often-neglected key, and that is complement. Every human being loves to be praised either for what he has done or simply for who he is.
The key is to locate the good qualities in your spouse and focus on it. Then express your appreciation for those good qualities by the words of your mouth. Learn to show appreciation for both small and great acts of kindness. You can also show appreciation by giving little gifts.
Make room for praise in your home. Praise God always and complement your husband or wife and your relationship will be heaven on earth!
For you to be able to possess good qualities that will make you relationship last, you need a good relationship with Christ. If, peradventure, you are not born again and you want to accept Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour, then say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org , 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores : Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).