RELISHING MARITAL HARMONY (1)
You are welcome to another wonder-filled month; where God will be granting you unlimited testimonies in all of your endeavours. We have gone through several amazing topics since the year began, and if you have been following through, you should have learnt one or two things that have transformed your family to a home of bliss, love and joy. Throughout this month, we shall be exploring another exciting topic: Relishing Marital Harmony’.
The Bible says: Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh (Genesis 2:24). This is not talking about the physical joining of a man and a woman together with a robe; it is simply referring to harmony, oneness, agreement and unity in the home. In securing marital harmony, no matter the difference in culture or cultural rules, the Word of God is the universal guide to establishing true and lasting marital harmony.
The issue of marital harmony is so important because, it does not appeal to the couples alone, but the Church of Jesus Christ because it is made up of families and your children’s future at large.Harmony enjoyed at home affects all aspect of one’s life, finance, career, business, health etc. To enjoy marital harmony therefore, we must first understand the family unit, it’s foundation, component and role in our day-to-day life.
Understanding the Family Unit
The word “family” in the Longman’s Dictionary of contemporary English means: a group of people who are closely related to each other, especially mother, father, and their children representing the nuclear family. There is also, however, the extended family set up, which include aunties, uncles, grandparents, distant relations, etc.
I want you to know that everyone on earth, male or female, married or single, no matter your status, you belong to a specific family on earth. God has sent you into this world through that family for a purpose and it shall be fulfilled!
Many families around the world today are suffering from disharmony. Many families are going through a lot of tension, many home both in the church and in the world are going through a sort of disharmony and this has resulted in separation, divorce and abuse of all kinds; namely, frustration, infidelity etc.
There are homes where peace is short-lived; children from these homes seek every means to be far away from their homes, because a moment at home brings heartache. There are some other couples that the remembrance of their marriages makes them to shed tears. Whatever tears you shed in the past, as you are going through this article right now, I see God wiping them away!
The foundation for securing marital harmony is in your personal relationship with God. He is the author of marriage; the One who founded the family. So, the starting point to your success in family life is to build a firm relationship with God. Your relationship with the Almighty Father will affect and determine your relationship in your marriage. The Bible says: If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do? (Psalm 11:3)
Developing and maintaining a strong relationship with God requires time, effort and the desire for closeness, just as relationships with other people take work and devotion. You need a personal encounter with God to strengthen the quality of your relationship with your family.
God is the only source of true and lasting relationship. When you allow Him to enter into your ship, it will never sink. If you are still singles, then you must know that it is the will of God that you enjoy a sweet home. However, it is very important to know that, your true and lasting satisfaction, joy and fulfillment in life is rooted in your relationship with the Almighty God. A good understanding of this will help you to walk in life with confidence.
I want you to know that your spouse is not your source of joy. God is the only source of joy. If you understand this, you will be ready to walk by the Word of God to secure marital harmony. If you know this, that God is the only source of joy, happiness and contentment in the family, you will know that changing spouse like changing clothes is not the solution to your contentment in the family. Looking for the latest models in town will never bring you contentment. God is the source!
Your problem today, may be oh! My husband is not good, I will look for another one, my wife is not good, I will get a better one and maybe you are even contemplating of divorce, as you are reading this material right now, the light of God will come on you and God will restore dignity to your marriage. Stop that divorce plan as it is not the solution. It is your relationship with God that makes all the difference for you to make progress in your family life. Whatever has caused you heartache and tears before, your relationship with God will cause a change and you shall have harmony in your family.
Marital harmony is a possibility, but not a gift. You have a responsibility for securing marital harmony. Bishop David Oyedepo, whom I am privilege to be married to, said” Faith that makes God absolutely responsible for the events of your life is an irresponsible faith”. You have a part to play!
You want to be born again to enjoy harmony in your home? God is the only true source of joy. Allow God to come into your life so you can have a relationship with God. You can say this prayer of faith:
You need wisdom to build your home and God is the source of that wisdom. If, peradventure, you are not born again and you want to accept Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour, then say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org , 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores : Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored)